an agreement between two or more parties for the doing or not doing of something specified.
Let’s stop for a moment and analyze the promises we make to one another. Are our promises pure? Or are they contractual? By contractual, I mean, we require certain conditions be met in order for our promises to be fulfilled.
“I’ll be there.”
“I’ll never leave you.”
“I’ll protect you.”
And the noblest of promises, “I love you.”
Do we silently follow up these utterances with clauses?
“Just make sure….”
“Until I don’t…”
Consider this: a broken promise isn’t really a promise to begin with.. if it came with fine print. Never despair the betrayals of someone who never intended to satisfy their promise unless you play by their rules. We are emotionally fraudulent if we are secretly holding people hostage to our expectations.
For reference: “I will always be there for you. No matter what.” (*Unless you disappoint me. Or piss me off. Otherwise that promise is then null and void.)
So let us learn to identify the ghosts among us. The ones whose contracts have hidden requirements. And let’s seek out the monuments. The ones whose promises have no terms and restrictions. Whose love is promised unconditionally.
Ashes to ashes…
Dust to underwriters.